Are You Acting Like “The Crazy Ex?”

 

I woke up way too early this morning, fully in response to my sugar free Red Bull addiction that I gave into last night. As I awoke, I replayed last night in my head and actually laughed out loud.

That Girl. We all know her. You know, That Girl who hates you because she thinks you stole her knight in shining armor? That Girl who thought she had it all, until evil you walked in and dashed her hopes and dreams (when really she was never even with the guy to begin with, and the guy is happy her over-consuming obsession has been put to a halt because she now has other ways to direct her angry energy)? I think all of us ladies have met That Girl at least once in our lives.
Not only are you forced to deal with girl-who-should-move-on-with-her-life, but you also have to deal with her friends’ dirty looks at bars and clubs alike (though at times they may pull you aside and admit to you how embarrassed they are with their friend’s behavior and that they are on your side. Yes, that has happened. Poor girl.) How fun. The thing about That Girl, is that  she never realizes the so-called “replacement happiness.”

Life is too short to look back on the ” what was’s”and “what-could-have-been’s.” While you are dancing up a storm and having a fabulous time with your fabulous girlfriends (who would never go up to her and tell her they are on her side… Loyalty much?) she is busy being the misery of her own company, writing stories in her head placing you in the role of the antagonist. Little does That Girl know, but you are happy. You’re content with your life and don’t think twice about her (except when she intentionally spills her drink on your friends, gives you the evil eye, or aggressively pushes past you almost knocking you over every time she walks by.) That Girl always tends to make a point to hit on guys in your presence and goes so far as to sleep with him that night. She says to herself,  ”Look what I can get!” as she very obviously attempts to flirt her way to happiness.

Happiness comes from within, ladies. Guys won’t fill that void. It’s so important for us all to live in reality and live in the moment. Appreciate what we have, accept what we have lost, and move forward with good intentions and a hope that our future will be bright and will pan out how it should. Women often force situations to be how we think they should be, in order for us to live out what we have projected in our overly-active imaginations. It’s so easy for us to fall prey to this behavior, but we need to realize that these are solely fantasies, and sometimes things aren’t meant to be. Acceptance is a powerful gift. Once we accept, we live.

Photo found on:  http://www.orkut.com.br/Mai

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About the Author,

Jen Kirsch spent three of her first four years in College in a relationship. In her fourth, she let go of the idea of monogamy and did some very valuable “research”. This research has allowed her to make a name for herself as the go-to relationship expert, columnist and blogger in Canada. Her quick wit and all too honest tone (and background in broadcast journalism) make Jenny Jen the perfect role model for us college kids who need some advice from a best friend when our best friend doesn’t have the guts to say what we really need to her. Her blog Blonde, Bronzed, Twentysomething has the answers (and anecdotes) to everything and anything on your mind. Can we say twentysomething Carrie Bradshaw, anyone?