Men don’t read minds

The obvious chatter on all of our pouty-little-lips these days is holiday and New Years plans and itineraries.

Most of us romance-chasing girls out there want our man to “just know” what we want him to do for us. To just know. We like to think that he is so head-over-heels into us and pays attention to every-little-thing we say/do/hint that he should just know exactly what to do to make us happy over the holidays.

The “Just Know Clause” is a very tricky clause, putting men across the nation, in the proverbial doghouse. The idea of the “Just Know Clause” alone conjures images of men having to sleep on the couch for the night. “No nookie for you, you un-psychic creature you,” we think to ourselves, angry at his inability to read our minds.


Want to put this “Just Know Clause” to an end? Next time your partner-in-crime asks you what you want to do for the holidays/New Years/your anniversary, consider having him enroll in a “How to Read Your Girlfriends Mind 101″ course. How perfect will that make every occasion after he learns the in’s and out’s of you?


Wouldn’t that be nice? A course like this would stop you from having to say, “nothing’s wrong,” when he asks you, “what’s wrong, babe?” when it is so very clear to him/everyone else that something is in fact wrong. It will also stop him from asking you another five times, each time with you respond “nothing” making it so obvious you are pissed at him and getting more pissed by the second since he isn’t reading your mind to know what the hell is wrong! Well, my little drama queen, as much as you want him to read your mind just think about how to train him to do just that.

Train him, yes, you read that right. Welcome to an adult relationship. You’re a college kid now, so instead of wishing he would just know, how about you take a big step in your thigh-high boots (so hot right now) and tell him how you really feel. Think about how happy you get when your man is happy. Wouldn’t you want him to tell you what makes him happy and the little things that would wow him? Now give the guy some credit babycakes because he likely wants to do the same from you.

So next time your knight in shining armor asks you what you what is on your mind use that voice of yours to express honesty. Do not take offense to him asking, instead embrace it knowing that his sole intention for asking is your happiness (cue the “aww!”) Tell him what you have in mind and I sure as hell hope it is not a trip to Paris for crepes or a fireworks display. Ladies, it is OK to dream a little, but lets not let shows like The Bachelor and the stories we read about it romance novels (so what if I read them?) get to your head. At the end of the day, it is the time you share that makes it special. But, if you have special requests (like flowers, just saying…), be sure to just let him know. A night on the couch for him means no anything for you.

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About the Author,

Jen Kirsch spent three of her first four years in College in a relationship. In her fourth, she let go of the idea of monogamy and did some very valuable “research”. This research has allowed her to make a name for herself as the go-to relationship expert, columnist and blogger in Canada. Her quick wit and all too honest tone (and background in broadcast journalism) make Jenny Jen the perfect role model for us college kids who need some advice from a best friend when our best friend doesn’t have the guts to say what we really need to her. Her blog Blonde, Bronzed, Twentysomething has the answers (and anecdotes) to everything and anything on your mind. Can we say twentysomething Carrie Bradshaw, anyone?