So I’ve been hanging out with this guy and we went on a few dates.  I haven’t seen him in a couple weeks but he always responds to my texts. I thought we hit it off and I really like him. What should I do??

-Kayley

When I find myself liking a guy and asking my friends what should I do??? I usually realize the answer is:

Nothing.

I know. Bummer, right? You want to fix the problem and figure out how to make him like you. But you can’t do that. It’s not like going on eHow and looking up how to buy vintage sunglasses.

You can’t make him ask you out again. Well, you can but I imagine it would involve illegal activity.

I would assume nothing serious is going on between you guys, at least for now. Yes, Mr. Elusive has been responsive as of late, but that’s not the same thing as him making effort. Yeah he hasn’t fallen off the face of the earth and he is politely responding to you, but he should be texting you (or calling!) and asking you to hang out. For any relationship to get off the ground, it takes two people making an effort.

Let him come around if he wants to. Sometimes guys do and sometimes they don’t. And if they don’t, their loss.

When it comes to boys, if you are asking yourself “what should I do?” even before you are dating, it’s not a great sign. You really should only be asking yourself “what should I do?” if you messed up big time. You know, like if you threw a Charlie Sheen-like tantrum, or got caught installing spyware in his car, or ran over his PS3… Then you can be like, Oh S*%#! WHAT SHOULD I DO?????????????????

And I totally understand the feeling of what should I do? How can I fix this? I have definitely had that pestering feeling when I like a guy and he’s being hot and cold, or cold and cold. Hello, new Katy Perry song…

I digress.

If he doesn’t come around,  it doesn’t mean its personal or that he’s a jerk. Maybe he’s not looking for a girlfriend. If you are looking for a relationship and he isn’t, the two of you are automatically on different pages. If you are, how are you supposed to read this love story together? You’re not.