How To: Cope After A Break-Up

You know what spring brings here on The College Crush?  NEW BLOGGERS!!!  It is like the holidays for me and I love to see all the awesomeness they are bringing.  It was a sad day, not too long ago, when we had to say good bye to our How To blogger, Courtney.  But as one door closes another one opens with a hottie standing there (or something like that) and introducing our new How To Lady, Jessica from Blog with Benefits.  She is fun and funny and smacking down some knowledge.  Say hello and tell her what you wish you could figure out HOW TO do!

-Kira

 

To all my Single Ladies:

So you just broke up with your lovah and you’re just like totally, completely, miserable. You’re in the beginning stages of: “Sad,” “Missing,” “Wanting Him Back,” and “Anger,” and you just don’t know what to do. I got you Babygirl, don’t worry.

So here’s what I want you to do when the unmentionable happens:

1. Clean up your social networks: this is a time for you to heal and continuing to dilute yourself with the past won’t allow you to do so. Either delete him or hide him from social networks (including, but not limited to: Facebook, Twitter, Reddit, Tumblr, Flickr, Google Plus, Friendster, MySpace, LiveJournal, Skype, EVERYTHING) because only two things can happen if you don’t: You will see that he’s sitting around “liking” things one day and you’ll either say “Awww I love how he likes sloth’s, he’s so cute, I miss him so much” and then you’ll cry, or “I freakin’ hate him and how he thought sloths were so freakin’ cute. Screw him and screw sloths” and then you’ll cry again.

Just trust me.

2. Stay busy: lying in bed sulking will make you sulk more. Thinking about how you’re lying in bed sulking over him will make you sulk more. Me thinking about how you’re lying in bed sulking over him will make ME sulk. Stop it. Get out, mingle, or go on vacation, whatever.

3. Get active: exercise releases endorphins! It’s better than booze or meth or whatever you consider in this serious time of need, trust me, you don’t want to end up on Intervention. I am not accusing you of turning to meth, but really, SERIOUS FACE – lift a weight.

4. Change something: now is the time to be you. Dye your hair or change your makeup or lose those five pounds you’ve been meaning to. TRUST ME. Having a change is like getting a new body. It revamps you.

**I’d add in “delete phone number” here, but odds are you have it memorized so you’re screwed. Sorry.

5. If you’re struggling to move on, make a list of good and bad traits he had or you two had together. Usually the bad outweigh the good and it helps to really see why what you’re doing is better for YOU, okay sista?

6. Don’t, just don’t, hang out at places he does. Don’t hope you will run into him. Don’t stage anything so you’ll randomly be at the same coffee shop that happens to be right by his work – the one he goes to every morning before work – which is nowhere near yours). Running into someone un-accidentally won’t make them magically realize they want you back. You may think if you look real good and they see you, they’re going to change their mind, but you’re in the “Missing” stage, which is looking like the “Stalker” stage if you do this. If they want you and it’s meant to be, they will contact you.

7. Thank your friends: make them a card, get them balloons, a flower, a hug – anything! Do you ever think about how many texts you send and belligerent calls you make about you know who and they pause Real Housewives of Atlanta, season four, reunion to listen? THANK THEM!

8. If nothing else works, just trust me on this, go in your room and sing Adele: Sing like your only job in the world is to sing. The girls’ got powerful words, and if you turn it up loud enough, you will sound JUST like her, wink.

Good luck, and remember, you won’t feel better over night, time is the best remedy. Cyber hug.

How have you coped in the past and/or, how are you coping right now?

-Jessica

Get in touch with me on Twitter or at Blog with Benefits.

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About the Author,

My name is Jessica and in my spare time, I write Blog with Benefits, an online source containing dating advice for fine young things like you; it features tribulations, reader submissions and lists, but if it makes you cry, I'm sorry. Follow me on Twitter if you'd like - no pressure. @JessicaDruck / site: http://www.blogwithbenefits.com