How To: Ignore Everyone Else

I’m usually bad in dating/relationships scenarios because I tend to listen to everybody else’s comments or worry what they may be thinking, which is really dumb. So everyone should just not do that.

In reality, no one is going to care about what is happening in your relationship. If you are an overly PDA couple they may gawk or give you a disgusted face but that is about it (excluding abusive relationships…then I truly hope someone will step in).

But, like most people, I assumed everyone was following my life story (similar to Jen and Brad’s saga) and making their own little comments on everything that happened in my dating life. Yes, in my mind it came with a laugh track and it’s own narrated version.

Recently though, I’ve started ignoring it. I’ve realized it doesn’t really matter what anyone else thinks as long as you are happy. It’s not something that I have to think about when I am with the person I’m dating either because I usually forget there are other people around us (don’t worry I’m not overly PDA though).

Tuning out the white noise of what you think other people are saying isn’t easy but at the right moment with the right person, you’ll just forget it ever existed.

But, until that moment comes along, here are some steps you can work on to lower the volume down a bit.

Step 1: Focus on what is important- sometimes the white noise is trying to tell us something. If you are more concerned with others’ opinions than how you feel, it might be time to have a tiny talk with your honey.

Step 2: Talk it out- If something is really bugging you, turn to your friends and ask them if they think there is a hidden red flag or some reason for you to be concerned. Chances are it’s nothing but will at least help to calm your nerves.

Step 3: Have fun- Stressing out about what other people think is a losing game. The best way to forget about it is by having fun, focusing on an activity that you both love to take your mind off of it. Soon enough you’ll forget the white noise was ever there.

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About the Author,

Over the past four years I've been collecting a few million how not to date stories, mostly from the hundreds of blind first dates I've gone on. My friends have even dubbed me the MVP of dating, and after you strike out as many times as I have you learn a thing or two (i.e. Never get extra onions on your burger during a first date if you want a romantic kiss.)