I thought I wasn’t the jealous type. That was until a woman began hitting on my boyfriend, RIGHT IN FRONT OF MY FACE.
A few weeks ago, a group of friends, the boyfriend and I all went out to dinner. One guy brought along his girlfriend for the first time and she seemed totally nice. Until she started undressing Benji with her eyes.
“Who does this girl think she is?”, I thought to myself.
“Does she see ME, with my ARM, around this MAN? MY MAN?”
After we paid the bill, I pulled Benji away so I could have a little discussion with him.
“Don’t talk to her.”
“That girl. You KNOW who. She was looking at you with her EYES. I don’t trust her.”
It went so far, that when we all went into a bar, I told my friend Brian to watch Benji while I went to the bathroom.
“Jade. You don’t want to end up like one of those crazy NFL wives that doesn’t let their man talk to any woman.”
“You don’t understand. Women are crazy and have no boundaries. Benji went on this camping trip a few months ago and some girl was totally hitting on him!! She knew he had a girlfriend! She even tried to give him her phone number!!!!”
“You should have Benji take a picture of your crazy face and he can show it to women that flirt with him.”
While that’s a funny idea, and I did consider doing it for a while, it wouldn’t fix the problem. I’ve realized that my jealousy is coming from an irrational and scared-of—losing-Benji place. I’ve had to remind myself that Benji does in fact love me. He isn’t interested in anyone else, no matter how much they throw themselves at him.
“Are you sure?” I’ll ask him.
“Yes. That girl just isn’t the right shape.”
If you’re having jealousy issues with someone you’re dating, try to get to the heart of the problem. Maybe you’re jealous for an actual, REAL, reason. If your man is flirting with other women instead of you, well, you shouldn’t be jealous; you should talk to him about it and let him know it makes you feel like he doesn’t want to be with you. If you can find no real reason behind your jealousy, learn to let it go. Realize that you are with someone that loves you and has your best interests at heart.
Your jealousy doesn’t just affect you; it affects the other person you’re in a relationship with, and unfortunately, not for the better. It can lead to trust issues, and communication problems. So before it even gets there, get it all out in the open!
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