Do you find yourself saying, “I am such a great person, I would be such a catch, why don’t I have a partner?!” and then after you get one think, “Oh my God I’m such a loser, I can’t believe this person thinks I’m a catch, they’re going to leave me!”?
Don’t question your happiness. People are allowed to be happy! Good things happen to people! If you project that something bad is going to happen in your relationship then that’s going to take over your entire attitude and it’s going to make it bad. You’re going to create an issue where there isn’t one.
No, really: you’re allowed to be happy. I promise. You wanted something, you got it, now you’re freaking out. Don’t. Just because something good happens doesn’t mean that something bad has to follow. It’s like I saw on Pinterest: “Karma’s only a bitch if you are.”
It’s just a text. “Julia, read this text, look he says ‘I’ll see you later’ does that mean he’s blowing it off or do you think he’s actually going to get in touch with me to see me or should I get in touch with him or should I wait or is this over because I didn’t like the restaurant we went to and I think he could tell?” Put the phone down. Turn off the phone. You could use a break. Five minutes for every text freakout. Texts are not literature; they are not meant to be analyzed and dissected. Same with GChats. Tone can be incredibly hard to discern on the Internet. Sarcasm does not translate well. Humor can fly over your head. And a casual attitude can be misinterpreted as uncaring. So cut it out. A text is just a text. Really want to know what’s going on? Call them. Yeah, remember that? Calling people? Hearing voices? Remember how The Baby-Sitters Club had their own phone line and it was so freaking awesome???
Take a moment to think before you speak. Did your partner say something that worried you? Made you jealous? Angry? Don’t fight back right away. Actually listen to what they said and not what you thought you heard. There’s a big difference. Just process it, see how you feel about it, and if you need clarification go for it. But again, you don’t want to start problems where there aren’t any.
Work on that confidence! Pretend you’re being interviewed on a major talk show. You’d be wearing something awesome and talking yourself up while being witty and being flattered by the host and people would applaud you. Picture it, take the feeling with you, bust out.
Save the analyzation for your thesis!