Getting cheated on sucks. There’s no other way for me to express this sentiment, and it’s unfortunate that it happens at all. Recently, I’ve been hearing a lot about couples that have broken up because one or both of them cheated, so I figured it was about time to write about it.
1. It’s not all your fault.
You aren’t a terrible girlfriend / boyfriend. You are not worthless, nor are you unlovable. You’re actually a perfectly normal human being that has a lot going for them – so own that! I was once told that the best revenge is success, and it couldn’t be more true. Move on with your life. Do the things you love and do them well. They’ll be crying over what they’re missing soon enough.
2. Realize that you might have had a part in it.
I know a guy who was cheated on because he was simply never around. He partied a lot and just generally didn’t give his girlfriend enough attention. She stuck around because she liked him, but when the opportunity came up (with a little too much alcohol), she took it. It doesn’t justify the fact that she cheated on him, but he wasn’t around enough to make his presence felt either. There are two sides to every story.
3. One cheater doesn’t mean that they’re all cheaters.
I’ve seen one too many situations where people are afraid that their next boyfriend / girlfriend is going to cheat on them, just like the last one, and it has been the reason for a lot of relationships falling apart. Don’t be suspicious just because you were cheated on once. Start fresh, place your trust in the right people, and have a little faith.
I think that the most important part about being cheated on is moving on. We might not like the person that cheated on us anymore, but we carry the pain with us into every future relationship, and it rarely turns out well. “Open heart, open eyes” is what I like to say. Trust your next boyfriend / girlfriend, but don’t get blind sighted. Recognize the red flags, and act on them.
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