Okay, I’m not even going to pretend that I don’t have a nasty dating reputation. Thanks a lot, high school. It doesn’t help that there were only like 100 people in my grade and about 20 of them ended up going to the same university as me. So I was kind of known as…psycho. My friends are very nice and say “you’re not psycho, you just know what you want and you demand it”. But that kind of translates to psycho. So here’s how I survive my dating reputation – hopefully it will help you survive yours.
It’s probably not true.
I’m not completely crazy. It’s just a fact. I’m not a terrible girlfriend, I’m not a ridiculous person, and I’m not overly clingy. All of that stuff is relative anyway – the older we get, the less it seems to matter. Like how holding hands used to be the biggest deal. Anyway, just realize that whatever people say about you is just that – it’s not who you are.
Then again, it’s probably true to some extent.
Like I said, it’s all relative. People often say that I grew up too fast, and I’m starting to agree with them. I’m not up for flings or hook ups. And it’s perfectly fine if you are, too. I just seemed psycho in high school because I wanted (and still want) a long-term relationship, and that’s still weird to a lot of my friends. So think about where you stand relative to the people around you. It doesn’t define you, but it’s good to keep in mind.
You are who you are.
And I don’t think you should ever run from that. Being fake in a relationship defeats the purpose of being in one to begin with. You want to be in a relationship where you feel comfortable and accepted for exactly who you are. If you’ve been with someone for a while and still feel like you need to tiptoe around them, or you feel like there are things that you can’t say to them, it’s time to rethink where you’re going with them.
What’s your dating reputation? Is it preventing you from being yourself? Don’t let it own you!