Here at The College Crush, we love love. We love relationships, dating, crushes, all that good stuff. A lot of the pieces on here are about finding that special person, and how you know when you’ve met “The One.” I believe in that kind of “we’re meant for each other” love. I don’t necessarily believe that angels matched you two together while choirs sang, but I believe there is a person out there who will understand you, accept you, and bring out the best in you. You connect with that person on many levels. You’ll get married, have pretty babies, and life will be grand. That relationship is an important one. Clearly. But as I’ve gotten a little older, had friendships and relationships, and watched a lot of TV, I’ve realized that I also believe in soul mate friends. It’s pretty rare in life that you meet a soul mate friend. A soul mate friend, like a soul mate lover, is someone you just have a deep connection with. Like a soul mate lover, you and your soul mate friend don’t necessarily have to have the exact same interests or career path. But you see life the same way, you approach problems the same way, and you have the same philosophies. You just get each other. A soul mate friend is not a romantic relationship, but it’s a type of friendship that goes above and beyond ordinary, run-of-the-mill friendship.
With a little effort anyone can find friends. They live in your dorm, they work in your office, they’re in your classes. It’s even easy to find best friends who really understand you. These people are great and valuable. But to find someone who takes it to that next level of understanding and compatibility? That’s rare. Probably almost as rare as meeting a soul mate lover.
I was with my friend the other day and as were talking I was like, “Holy crapballs. She is a soul mate friend.” She and I haven’t known each other for that long, barely even a year, but we see big issues and small issues the same way. We have different career goals, but we want the same general things out of life. We even agree upon quirky, random things. We’ve had oddly similar life experiences. I can tell her something I think may sound insane or nerdy and she just accepts it. She might even agree. We just get each other. That type of friendship is extremely important.
People debate whether you can have more than one soul mate lover in life. I don’t know how I feel about that. But I believe you can have more than one soul mate friend in your life. If you do you’re extremely lucky, but it’s possible. How do you feel about soul mate friends? Are soul mates only reserved for romantic relationships? Do you have a soul mate friend? Let me know on Twitter @lifewithlauren1 and give them a shout out in the comments section if you do!
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