Everyone say that life is about the journey, not the destination, right? Well, I think that’s a bunch of BS. Sometimes we want something specific and the constant unknown factors and ups and downs are enough to make your head spin. This is particularly true when it comes to dating. Does he like me? If he does like me, does he like me as much as I like him? I wonder if he’s seeing anyone else? Am I even ready for a relationship if he wants one. The what ifs can drive a person (and do drive me) crazy. So what do we do? We turn to our friends of course. We want every opinion under the sun to give us advice, but in actuality we just want someone to tell us what we want to hear. I’ve recently gone thru this again and I learned a few things after listening to my friends.
1. NEVER Listen To Anyone Else
Yes, completely contradictory to this entire post. But do any of your friends really know what they’re talking about? Have they had bad experiences in prior relationships that they are subconsciously projecting onto you? Are they trying to protect you by giving you the worst case scenario and discouraging you? The only two people that really know what’s going on are the two people that are dating. No matter how much you want your friends to help you overanalyze every word of his text after the next episode of Pretty Little Liars, just remember that no matter what you disclose to them, you’re the only one that knows the chemistry and vibe you feel when you’re with your date.
2. The Rules Are Bullshit
You’ve heard them all. NEVER text a guy. NEVER go out with a guy that asks you out for the same night, blah, blah blah. Here’s the thing…yes, men are the “hunters” and do need to chase women, but the world is different today. Guys are more metro and sensitive and women are usually more guarded because they’ve been with too many jerks. Think about it…if one text breaks your potential relationship off, was it really the text that broke the camel’s back? Absolutely not. If someone really likes you, none of that stuff matters. But please don’t take this as a sign to go all fatal attraction on a guy you’ve only known for two weeks.
3. Do What You Want To Do
Most relationships end. It’s sad, but the majority of all of our relationships aren’t going to be the one that works out forever. And who wants to live with the coulda, shoulda, woulda? Do or say whatever you need to to make sure that you feel good and said everything and got everything off your chest that you need to. The worst feeling is one of regret so do everything possible to prevent it.
Basically stop obsessing. You don’t need to reach out to your pals. Because even if they have the best of intentions they won’t really be able to help you out. Have YOU ever gotten good advice from your friends about relationships? Or do you prefer to work things out on your own?
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