The other day I was browsing People.com which, in itself, is not really anything to write about. But I saw a comment that caught my eye. Many of the comments on that site are horrible, untrue, negative, and/or utterly moronic. But this one was pretty interesting. It was about Kaley Cuoco. You know her from The Big Bang Theory. She’s super gorgeous, funny, the whole bit. But she was getting some criticism from going from one relationship to another to being engaged right into another relationship. The commenter defended Kaley, saying she’s a young woman and that your 20s are a time for exploring relationships and figuring out what you want out of life.
Seriously, props to this woman. She is so right. When I think about the conversations I have with friends, or the things I read online, it seems like every female in her 20s is beating herself up about something love-related. Either we’re too single or we’re too involved in a relationship. We date the wrong guys or we can’t let the right guys love us. Or maybe we just don’t know what we want. I’m starting to realize that this is actually perfectly acceptable. There’s so much pressure to find your soulmate, get married, and have babies with unique yet trendy names that sometimes we let ourselves get carried away. We can’t put things in perspective. You’re 18 or 20 or 24 or 26. It’s okay to need time to think about things. It’s okay to be unsure about what you want, or to not feel ready to get married even if you really love that person. It’s okay to want to be single and date around. It’s okay to not want to date at all. It’s important to give yourself a break and a minute to figure things out. Let things play out and stop trying to over plan and hyper-organize your life. This is not *N Sync’s “Bye Bye Bye” video and you’re not that girl in the weird backless shirt acting as puppet master. It’s okay to see how things unfold and let things take shape on their own. Know what I’m saying?
How do you feel about dating/relationships/love in general in college/post-college life? Do you feel pressure to make decisions and have everything figured out or are you good at letting things happen on their own? Tweet me @lifewithlauren1 or find me at Life with Lauren.
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