It really is quite simple.
Have you ever made the devastating discovery that a boy is not as interested in you as you hoped? But somehow, that only makes you want them more, which puts you in an entirely torturous situation? Have you ever gone through a breakup and it seems the guy could care less? It is completely infuriating and leads to utter insanity.
Well, if I had it my way you would not waste one more solitary moment beating yourself up or wondering why you aren’t good enough. Ladies, I cannot be any more passionate about the topic of confidence. If I could come through the screen and shake you uncontrollably, I would. I realize that sounds a bit unnecessary, but that’s how important it is for you to understand what I’m about to say.
Confidence is the key to everything in life — especially relationships. Many people struggle with confidence, but the good news is that you have the ability to change that at any time. So, why is confidence so important?
1. Confidence gives perspective. Here is what you need to understand: there are billions of people on earth. If you are going to end up with just one, measly male then that means there will be a lot of broken hearts in the meantime. You will hurt a lot of guys. A lot of guys will hurt you. Have you ever broken up with someone because they just didn’t feel like the right fit, but you had a hard time telling them because they were such a good person? Exactly. So why do you take it so personally when the tables are turned? Get it through your pretty little head that it has nothing to do with how good or pretty you are — dating is designed to help people find their right fit. If you’re going to put yourself out there, you’ve got to be able to accept both sides of the coin.
2. Confidence makes you so, so attractive. In the same way that you find yourself wanting the guy that won’t give you the time of day, it works just the opposite. I used to have this friend in high school. She wasn’t gorgeous, she wasn’t a cheerleader, she didn’t have any extraordinary talents, but she was a boy magnet. Why? Because she didn’t care who liked her and who didn’t. She was happy and preoccupied with doing things that enhanced her life, and that is attractive. Guess what?If this guy doesn’t like you, the next one will; and just when you think that you will never find anyone else, you will find better. Trust me.
3. Confidence shows you have respect for yourself. What kind of message does it send to everyone when you are wanting to kill yourself because a guy didn’t want to date you? First of all, that’s going to scare all the other guys away because they will think you are some psycho Juliet. Secondly, it says that you have given a stupid guy, who doesn’t even care to give you a chance, the power to make you feel horrible about yourself. Why would you allow him to do that? Doing so is truly a disservice to yourself. If you’re rejected, remember that you don’t want to be with someone unless they are crazy about you too. You can’t change someone’s feelings for you, but you can change how you let that affect you. More than likely, once you move on with a smile and forget that loser, he’ll come knocking at your door anyway.
The one thing you’ve got to remember is that no one else on earth is like you. Use it to your advantage and don’t allow anyone to make you feel inadequate. You’ll notice a difference in your life immediately.
Remember: you can’t control anything in life, except your reactions.