He Finally Has Me And Now He's Bored?

He Finally Has Me And Now He’s Bored?

[I wrote this last fall, but this topic has been coming up a lot lately and so I thought we'd take a trip back in time]

It took me waaay too many years to realize that this guy even had a category, but now that I’ve had a lot of practice, I can spot them faster than crooked bangs. Did you ever see that remake of Alfie with Jude Law? Well, Jude Law was, of course, my only reason for seeing it, however, it taught me a great deal about our little topic of discussion today.

Unfortunately, you will date this type of guy at some point, and your interactions with them will definitely leave you perplexed. Your best bet is to spot them quickly and run away before they have a chance to turn your life into a hot mess.

I have not-so-lovingly labeled this batch of men: ”The Forbidden Guys.” And I know what you are thinking, but that’s not what I’m referring to. Confused yet? Keep reading, grab yourself some Captain Crunch, and by the time it has destroyed the roof of your mouth you’ll be shaking your head in agreement.

Forbidden Guys want anything and everything that is off limits to them. This is true of many people, however, this type of guy will drop you faster than a Hot Pocket as soon as you finally commit to them.

Who they go after: Girls who are in a relationship and especially girls who just will not give them the time of day. It seems that this would come across as annoyingly obvious and girls would have no problem rejecting them, but that is not the case. For years, I have seen girls become heartbroken because of this type of guy.

How we fall for them: The three Cs: convincing, charismatic and charming. These guys can have a bad reputation, but they somehow continue to charm girls into liking them. They want you to think you are the exception and that you will be the one who holds their attention – but I assure you, you are not. They will make you feel like you are the only person in the world because they are determined to get whatever they set their sights on.

What they will tell you: If you are in a relationship, they will convince you that you are too good for it or that your boyfriend does not treat you well enough. They will convince you that you should be with someone who really understands and appreciates you and that person is him. Now, if you are unattached and uninterested, he will most likely be relentless. The more you push him away, the more he will try, but he won’t try in an obvious way. It will be subtle and before you know it you will be laughing at all his jokes and wanting to make-out in the back hallway.

What you need to know: Forbidden Guys never get over this behavior. Ever. Please, please do not make the mistake of giving in to this type of guy. They are chronic cheaters, liars and eternally unsatisfied.

I was once involved with a Forbidden Guy back in college. When I was dating, he wanted me. Then when we finally got together, he wanted my girlfriend. But, here’s the best part…he came into my life again after several years. I did not trust him or want anything to do with him. He spent months convincing me that he was different and that he had made a huge mistake. When I finally gave him another chance, he cheated on me with a married chick.

Believe me when I tell you: these guys don’t change. They can be 21, 31 or Hugh Hefner. Trust me on this. So, I told you my little story.

Now you tell me…have you ever fallen for a Forbidden Guy?

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Currently, I am a stay at home, non-showered writer, editor and photographer. I’m also a restless, commitment-phobic nomad who has spent the majority of my twenties in a perpetual state of confusion. But hey, I give solid advice.

debbie

yes! i thought this was just with this one guy but no. lkie you we met got together then he chjeated on me with a friend.. years later like you he i thought he had changed, he cheated on me again with anotehr friend. never again.
ChrissyGoo

It's like this article was written specifically about my ex! Except he doesn't look like Jude Law…
Floral Undies

Where was this article a year ago??
And why is this writing in caps locks???? (Seriously, My Caps Lock isn’t on…)

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hey! thanks for stopping by! Well… now you know it’s here… so you better stick around!

Vanessa

Yes! I was unattached and uninterested and suddenly I found myself experiencing all this sexual tension with this forbidden guy. I couldn’t understand why this was happening if I had even said to myself in the beginning “I am sure I don’t like him”. Once I returned his attention he held it for a little while pretending he was going to do something more with it…and then….BAM… nothing. And by nothing I mean he still flirts with me every time he sees me but with no indication of asking me out ever again.

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i know… what’s up with THAT?? veryyyyy annoying. but just remember those type of guys will never be satisfied no matter who they are with. it’s the chase that they love and the mystery.. once it’s gone they’re out! and we’re left going WTF

abbi

Like you said…we ALL have. Lol.
Kati

This past spring I got involved with my Ra. He was intelligent, older, gorgeous, charming and an unknown. I never heard anything about his dating life. We flirted but I wasn’t looking for the scandal that came with his title of Ra. Until he found me heartbroken and tipsy and finally won me over to his charm. But of course I wasn’t enough for him and when I didn’t satisfy his needs he found another girl and promptly ended our month long fling out of the blue by simply never saying another word to me the rest of the year unless forced. He recently called me to say he was in town. I hung up. It took a month of that before he stopped trying. The forbidden guy blindsided me and I refuse to fall for his charms again.

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Yep. Sounds about right. You didn’t give him what he wanted, so he kept pursuing you. these types are very persistent! But once you would have caved, he probably would have moved on. Good for you for standing your ground!

larry

Hey. This isn’t always “The Forbidden Guys” fault. Sometimes what we get is not what we were led to believe that we were getting. How about a little truth in advertising .

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What “advertising” are you referring to Larry?

larry

Some people misrepresent their experiences, interests, education, and whatever they feel might elevate their social status. When you get close to someone the truth comes out. It’s better to be yourself up front. Surely you didn’t think I was referring to physical enhancements. )

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NO, i did not assume that Larry! I think we are referring to the same thing. The post is essentially talking about guys who make girls think they are all about them and will say/do anything to get to them, and then when they do they are bored cus the chase is over. so, they are not who they appear to be either.

the same goes for women, they do it too – it’s just that we write from the female perspective mostly.

Brandon

I fell for one of these guys once, broke my heart. I’ve never been able to love again.

The sad part about these guys (and lots of others) is how blatantly obvious the ploys are to other guys, yet girls are completely oblivious to them. More often than not, whenever I warn girls of these sorts of things, I get told that the guy is “just being nice” and I “have no idea what I’m talking about.” Naturally, the girls eventually find out that Brandon is always right (and sometimes speaks in the third person).

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Haha! No, i’m pretty sure that’s what they tell you, cus I had a lot of brandons in my life warn me too.

I never listened either. sigh.

Brandon, brandon.

katie

Omg. This article is spot on. SPOT ON.
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