[I wrote this last fall, but this topic has been coming up a lot lately and so I thought we'd take a trip back in time]
It took me waaay too many years to realize that this guy even had a category, but now that I’ve had a lot of practice, I can spot them faster than crooked bangs. Did you ever see that remake of Alfie with Jude Law? Well, Jude Law was, of course, my only reason for seeing it, however, it taught me a great deal about our little topic of discussion today.
Unfortunately, you will date this type of guy at some point, and your interactions with them will definitely leave you perplexed. Your best bet is to spot them quickly and run away before they have a chance to turn your life into a hot mess.
I have not-so-lovingly labeled this batch of men: ”The Forbidden Guys.” And I know what you are thinking, but that’s not what I’m referring to. Confused yet? Keep reading, grab yourself some Captain Crunch, and by the time it has destroyed the roof of your mouth you’ll be shaking your head in agreement.
Forbidden Guys want anything and everything that is off limits to them. This is true of many people, however, this type of guy will drop you faster than a Hot Pocket as soon as you finally commit to them.
Who they go after: Girls who are in a relationship and especially girls who just will not give them the time of day. It seems that this would come across as annoyingly obvious and girls would have no problem rejecting them, but that is not the case. For years, I have seen girls become heartbroken because of this type of guy.
How we fall for them: The three Cs: convincing, charismatic and charming. These guys can have a bad reputation, but they somehow continue to charm girls into liking them. They want you to think you are the exception and that you will be the one who holds their attention – but I assure you, you are not. They will make you feel like you are the only person in the world because they are determined to get whatever they set their sights on.
What they will tell you: If you are in a relationship, they will convince you that you are too good for it or that your boyfriend does not treat you well enough. They will convince you that you should be with someone who really understands and appreciates you and that person is him. Now, if you are unattached and uninterested, he will most likely be relentless. The more you push him away, the more he will try, but he won’t try in an obvious way. It will be subtle and before you know it you will be laughing at all his jokes and wanting to make-out in the back hallway.
What you need to know: Forbidden Guys never get over this behavior. Ever. Please, please do not make the mistake of giving in to this type of guy. They are chronic cheaters, liars and eternally unsatisfied.
I was once involved with a Forbidden Guy back in college. When I was dating, he wanted me. Then when we finally got together, he wanted my girlfriend. But, here’s the best part…he came into my life again after several years. I did not trust him or want anything to do with him. He spent months convincing me that he was different and that he had made a huge mistake. When I finally gave him another chance, he cheated on me with a married chick.
Believe me when I tell you: these guys don’t change. They can be 21, 31 or Hugh Hefner. Trust me on this. So, I told you my little story.
Now you tell me…have you ever fallen for a Forbidden Guy?
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