Letting the Small Stuff Go: Unrequited Love

Part of ‘Getting Your Sh#t Together’ is knowing when to let stuff go. Unrequited love is one of those instances. I’ve seen so many girls who start to have a crush, then are absolutely heartbroken when he doesn’t feel the same way. I’m not trying to be Gigi from He’s Just Not That Into You, but here are some reasons that I’ve come up with for what could be in the way of the guy you’re pursuing (and NONE of them have to do with you!):

1. Timing

This is probably the most important thing I can stress. I believe that in order for a relationship to work, you have to meet this person at the right time in the right context. Think about it: how many people have you seen meet and think “Wow, they’d be perfect together!” but one of them is in a relationship, heartbroken, or just has other things going on in their life? In order for the relationship to work, both parties have to be ready. Just because you are, doesn’t mean he is. And that’s on his end, not yours.

2. He’s focused on something else

Being in business school, I see this all too often. Cute guy, good grades, on the right track. But he’s so focused on this path that he has tunnel vision and can’t see what else is around him. That includes amazing girls vying for his heart. It’s absolutely okay to be focused on a career and not thinking about your love life- although being interested in someone in that position can be a little frustrating. But, it’s his right to choose his focus.

3. His heart is spoken for

This can be the toughest to deal with. When you meet a guy and he’s either getting out of a relationship, or heartbroken, or still caught up on his ex, there’s no way he’s going to be ready to jump into a relationship with another person. Be grateful for this one, because at least that means he won’t use you for a rebound. Be thankful to this guy- he’s being respectful of your feelings and leaving it be.

Yeah, there might be a lot more reasons out there – but trust me, these are some of the biggest. All in all though just because it doesn’t work with this one guy, doesn’t mean it’s the end of your love life as you know it. Be patient, and you’ll find that guy you’re looking for. When it’s right, it’ll match up. I promise.

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